The Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships

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Future Horizons, 2005 - Family & Relationships - 383 pages
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Silver Award Winner in the 2005 ForeWord Book of the Year Awards!   Born with autism, both authors now famously live successful social lives. But their paths were very different. Temple's logical mind controlled her social behavior. She interacted with many adults and other children, experiencing varied social situations. Logic informed her decision to obey social rules and avoid unpleasant consequences. Sean's emotions controlled his social behavior. Baffled by social rules, isolated and friendless, he made up his own, and applied them to others. When they inevitably broke his rules, he felt worthless and unloved. Both Temple and Sean ultimately came to terms with the social world and found their places in it. Whether you are a person with autism, a caregiver in the autism community, or just someone interested in an "outsider" view of society, their powerful stories will enthrall and enlighten you.   Helpful sections include:
  • Two Perspectives on Social Thinking
  • Two Minds: Two Paths
  • The Ten Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships, which include:
    • Rule #1: Rules are Not Absolute. They are Situation-based and People-based
    • Rule #2: Not Everything is Equally Important in the Grand Scheme of Things
    • Rule #3: Everyone in the World Makes Mistakes. It Doesn't Have to Ruin Your Day.
    • Rule #4: Honesty is Different than Diplomacy
    • Rule #5: Being Polite is Appropriate in Any Situation
    • Rule #6: Not Everyone Who is Nice to Me is My Friend
    • Rule #7: People Act Differently in Public than They Do in Private
    • Rule #8: Know When You're Turning People Off
    • Rule #9: "Fitting In" is Often Tied to Looking and Sounding Like You Fit In
    • Rule # 10: People are Responsible for Their Own Behaviors

       

     

 

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Review: The Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships: Decoding Social Mysteries Through the Unique Perspectives of Autism

User Review  - Jessica - Goodreads

This book wasn't as easy to read as the last two Asperger's books i have read. Once it got to "Act 3" and they started going into detail about each rule, it seemed to delve into each too far so i skimmed the rest of the book. Maybe someday i will read through it completely. Read full review

Review: The Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships: Decoding Social Mysteries Through the Unique Perspectives of Autism

User Review  - Leslie - Goodreads

First, Goodreads has not acknowledged Sean Bari as the other author of this book. His perspective complements Temple Grandin's well and he deserves recognition for his contribution. Temple and Sean ... Read full review

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As a child, Temple Grandin could not speak. Her silent existence was broken only by rhythmic rocking and occasional fits of screaming and thrashing. Diagnosed with autism, Temple's many caregivers eventually helped her contradict her doctors' morbid predictions and go on to become one of the autism community's most beloved success stories. Temple Grandin, PhD, is a popular international lecturer on autism and the author of Emergence: Labeled Autistic, Thinking in Pictures, Animals in Translation, and Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships. One of the world's leading experts in livestock facility design, over half of the cattle in North America are handled in facilities designed by her. She credits her visual thinking and her systemizing mind, both characteristics of autism, for her ability to be "the woman who thinks like a cow." Temple continues to be an inspiration and role model to millions.

Sean Barron is a very interesting and intelligent young man who has faced the challenge of autism. He and his mother wrote an insightful book on their lives together. There's a Boy in Here has won many accolades for offering the unique perspectives of two people who look at the same world but see and feel entirely different things. Mr. Barron has progressed to the point that it is difficult to even realize that he once was truly impacted by autism/Asperger's Syndrome. He is now a freelance writer, lives independently, and recently co-authored Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships with Dr. Temple Grandin. Sean is a graduate of Youngstown State University, and works as a reporter for the Youngstown Vindicator. He's pursuing a second degree in journalism.

Veronica Zysk has been working in the field of autism since 1991. She served as Executive Director of the Autism Society of America from 1991-1996, and then joined Future Horizons as Vice President of Administration. Veronica moved into an editorial position within the company in 1999, as Managing Editor and visionary for the first national magazine on ASD, the Autism Asperger's Digest, winner of several Gold awards for excellence. She continues in that position today. An award-winning book author, Veronica co-authored with Ellen Notbohm, 1001 Great Ideas for Teaching and Raising Children with Autism Spectrum Disorders, a Learning Magazine 2006 Teachers' Choice Award winner, and has been the editorial driving force behind several collaborations with Dr. Temple Grandin: Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships, winner of ForeWord magazine's prestigious Book of the Year Silver Award and Dr. Grandin's most recent autism release, The Way I See It, based on columns written for the Digest magazine.

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