Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After
People who are single are changing the face of America. Did you know that:
* More than 40 percent of the nation's adults---over 87 million people---are divorced, widowed, or have always been single.
Many of today's single people have engaging jobs, homes that they own, and a network of friends. This is not the 1950s---singles can have sex without marrying, and they can raise smart, successful, and happy children. It should be a great time to be single. Yet too often single people are still asked to defend their single status by an onslaught of judgmental peers and fretful relatives.
Prominent people in politics, the popular press, and the intelligentsia have all taken turns peddling myths about marriage and singlehood. Marry, they promise, and you will live a long, happy, and healthy life, and you will never be lonely again.
Drawing from decades of scientific research and stacks of stories from the front lines of singlehood, Bella DePaulo debunks the myths of singledom---and shows that just about everything you've heard about the benefits of getting married and the perils of staying single are grossly exaggerated or just plain wrong. Although singles are singled out for unfair treatment by the workplace, the marketplace, and the federal tax structure, they are not simply victims of this singlism. Single people really are living happily ever after.
Filled with bracing bursts of truth and dazzling dashes of humor, Singled Out is a spirited and provocative read for the single, the married, and everyone in between.
You will never think about singlehood or marriage the same way again.
Singled Out debunks the Ten Myths of Singlehood, including:
Myth #1: The Wonder of Couples: Marrieds know best.
Myth #3: The Dark Aura of Singlehood: You are miserable and lonely and your life is tragic.
Myth #5: Attention, Single Women: Your work won't love you back and your eggs will dry up. Also, you don't get any and you're promiscuous.
Myth #6: Attention, Single Men: You are horny, slovenly, and irresponsible, and you are the scary criminals. Or you are sexy, fastidious, frivolous, and gay.
Myth #7: Attention, Single Parents: Your kids are doomed.
Myth #9: Poor Soul: You will grow old alone and you will die in a room by yourself where no one will find you for weeks.
Myth #10: Family Values: Let's give all of the perks, benefits, gifts, and cash to couples and call it family values.
"With elegant analysis, wonderfully detailed examples, and clear and witty prose, DePaulo lays out the many, often subtle denigrations and discriminations faced by single adults in the U.S. She addresses, too, the resilience of single women and men in the face of such singlism. A must-read for all single adults, their friends and families, as well as social scientists and policy advocates."
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LibraryThing ReviewUser Review - KateSherrod - LibraryThing
I'm tempted, this time around, to just share all the passages I highlighted, but that would just be lazy, and would probably somehow confirm some of you in your stereotyping of older single women as ... Read full review
LibraryThing ReviewUser Review - juglicerr - LibraryThing
I thought that the first chapter of this book was very off-putting, but it improves and becomes well worth reading for anyone interested in the issues of being single. I think of myself as a sort of ... Read full review
CHAPTER TWO Science and the Single Person
CHAPTER THREE Myth 1 The Wonder of Couples
CHAPTER FOUR Myth 2 SingleMinded
CHAPTER FIVE Myth 3 The Dark Aura of Singlehood
CHAPTER SIX Myth 4 It Is All About
CHAPTER SEVEN Myth 5 Attention Single Women
CHAPTER EIGHT Myth 6 Attention Single
CHAPTER TEN Myth 8 Too Bad Youre Incomplete
CHAPTER ELEVEN Myth 9 Poor Soul
CHAPTER TWELVE Myth 10 Family Values
CHAPTER THIRTEEN It Is Perfectly Understandable
CHAPTER FIFTEEN The Way We Could
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CHAPTER NINE Myth 7 Attention Single Parents