Beyond Good Intentions: A Mother Reflects on Raising Internationally Adopted Children

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Yeong & Yeong Book Company, 2005 - Biography & Autobiography - 183 pages
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Beyond Good Intentions is a book of essays about the joys and risks of raising children adopted internationally. Cheri Register examines ten pitfalls that well-meaning parents like herself can easily slip into: -- Wiping Away Our Children's Past -- Hovering Over Our "Troubled" Children -- Holding the Lid on Sorrow and Anger -- Parenting on the Defensive -- Believing Race Doesn't Matter -- Keeping Our Children Exotic -- Raising Our Children in Isolation -- Judging Our Country Superior -- Believing Adoption Saves Souls -- Appropriating Our Children's Heritage Each essay opens with an exaggerated version of something an adoptive parent might say, to prompt a fresh, intense look at practices so familiar they are seldom questioned, even though they may not serve the children's and the family's best interests. Register urges readers to bring their own experiences to bear in a candid conversation about internationally adoptive family life.

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User Review  - xuesheng - LibraryThing

Cheri Register is the mother of two adult daughters she adopted internationally from Korea. She uses the lessons that she learned from raising them and that she gathered from other international ... Read full review

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If you are willing to listen to the authors message - this is a good book. You might find that you have fallen into some of the discriptions she uses -- but if you will hear her, you will learn ... Read full review


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About the author (2005)

Cheri Register often tells people her University of Chicago Ph.D. really stands for "Packinghouse Daughter." The opening chapter of "Packinghouse Daughter" was cited as a Notable Essay in "Best American Essays 1996." Other excerpts have appeared in "Hungry Mind Review, University of Chicago Magazine, " and the book "Is Academic Feminism Dead?" Her work on this memoir has earned a Jerome Travel and Study Grant, a Minnesota State Arts Board Fellowship, and grants from the Loft Literary Center and the Minnesota Historical Society. Her other books include "The Chronic Illness Experience: Embracing the Imperfect Life" (formerly titled "Living with Chronic Illness: Days of Patience and Passion") and ""Are Those Kids Yours?": American Families with Children Adopted from Other Countries." She has published many essays in magazines, literary journals, and anthologies, and is known for her early work in feminist literary criticism and Scandinavian literature. A writer of creative nonfiction, Register now teaches writing at the Loft Literary Center in Minneapolis, where she also lives.

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