The Compassionate-Mind Guide to Managing Your Anger: Using Compassion-Focused Therapy to Calm Your Rage and Heal Your Relationships

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New Harbinger Publications, Jul 1, 2012 - Self-Help - 288 pages

We will all experience anger sometimes—it’s how we deal with it that counts. Anger is one of the most challenging emotions for humans to cope with, and under its influence, we can end up behaving in ways that create great difficulties in our relationships and our lives. The Compassionate-Mind Guide to Managing Your Anger will show you how to take responsibility for your anger and your life by cultivating a new strength: the power of compassion. Based in compassion-focused therapy, these skills and techniques will help you replace angry habits, gain control of your emotions, and improve your relationships.

The compassionate tools in this book will help you:
• Shift from threat-driven thinking to compassionate thinking
• Replace angry reactions with assertive responses
• Improve your relationships with friends, coworkers, and your significant other
• Cultivate compassion for yourself as you learn and grow

“This innovative book teaches how to develop self-compassion so that anger can be transformed into a more peaceful state of mind.”
—Kristin Neff, PhD, author of Self-Compassion

 

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Contents

Foreword
Introduction
Emotion The Three Circles The Threat and SelfProtection System
When Things Become Unbalanced
You Didnt Get What You Needed Learning To Be Angry Implicit Memory
First Steps
SoothingRhythm Breathing
Mindfulness and Working with Anger Conclusion
Mentalizing
Compassionately with Angry Thinking What Would My Compassionate Self
Relating Compassionately with
Limitations Expressing Disagreement Reconciliation Apologizing
Empathy Deepening Empathy with Mentalization Sympathy Bringing
Conclusion
Appendix
Copyright

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About the author (2012)

Russell L. Kolts, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and professor at Eastern Washington University outside of Spokane, WA, and is founder of the Inland Northwest Compassionate Mind Center. Kolts regularly conducts trainings and workshops on compassion-focused therapy (CFT), as well as on mindfulness and compassion practices. His professional interests lie primarily in the application of CFT and mindfulness approaches to individuals suffering from problematic anger, trauma, mood, and attachment-related difficulties. Kolts has pioneered the application of CFT to problematic anger, and is the developer of the True Strength group therapy program applying CFT to anger in prison settings. He has published and presented research in diverse areas such as positive psychology, PTSD, psychopharmacology, mindfulness, and compassion. In his personal life, Kolts enjoys family time, reading, meditation, outdoor activities, and listening to and playing music. His website is www.compassionatemind.net.

Foreword writer Paul Gilbert, PhD, is a professor at the University of Derby in the United Kingdom, director of the mental health research unit at Derbyshire Mental Health Trust, and author of The Compassionate Mind.

Bibliographic information

TitleThe Compassionate-Mind Guide to Managing Your Anger: Using Compassion-Focused Therapy to Calm Your Rage and Heal Your Relationships
The New Harbinger Compassion-Focused Therapy Series
AuthorRussell L Kolts
ContributorPaul Gilbert
PublisherNew Harbinger Publications, 2012
ISBN1608828719, 9781608828715
Length288 pages
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Self-Help / Self-Management / Anger Management
  
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