Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

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Penguin, Sep 2, 2003 - Family & Relationships - 432 pages
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In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancroft—a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men—uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued in a relationship, and to find ways to get free of abuse.

He says he loves you. So...why does he do that?

 
You’ve asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men—and change your life. In Why Does He Do That? you will learn about:
 
• The early warning signs of abuse
• The nature of abusive thinking
• Myths about abusers
• Ten abusive personality types
• The role of drugs and alcohol
• What you can fix, and what you can’t
• And how to get out of an abusive relationship safely

“This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men. Women who are armed with the insights found in these pages will be on the road to recovering control of their lives.”—Jay G. Silverman, Ph.D., Director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health


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re: "ceedav" : man who is now abused

User Review  - judy - Christianbook.com

I suggest that the abused woman who married this man "ceedav" has become an abuser...so don't be too hard on him, folks. He needs to read the book and explain to the woman that after so many years as ... Read full review

Every woman in the world should read this.

User Review  - Hopeful - Christianbook.com

I have read the other reviews posted and I am troubled by the ones that are negative. When I first started reading this book, I was rather put off by the author's frequency of referring to himself as ... Read full review

Contents

Acknowledgments
ix
Introduction
xvii
The Nature of Abusive Thinking
xxv
The Mythology
21
The Abusive Mentality
49
The Types of Abusive Men
76
The Abusive Man in Relationships
107
The Abusive Man in Everyday Life
136
The Abusive Man in the World
233
Abusive Men and Their Allies
273
The Abusive Man and the Legal System
291
The Making of an Abusive Man
317
The Process of Change
334
Creating an Abusefree World
367
Resources
391
Index
401

PART III
218

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About the author (2003)

Lundy Bancroft has over twenty-five years of experience in the fields of abuse, trauma, and recovery. He has published five books, including the bestseller Why Does He Do That?, Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That?, When Dad Hurts Mom, The Batterer as Parent, and Should I Stay of Should I Go?. Lundy has worked with over 1000 abusive men in his counseling groups. He has also served extensively as a custody evaluator, child abuse investigator, and expert witness, and has presented to 350 audiences across the U.S. and abroad.


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