The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness

Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga

Simon and Schuster, May 7, 2024 - Philosophy - 288 pages

An international bestseller and TikTok sensation with more than 10 million copies sold worldwide, The Courage to Be Disliked is a transformative and practical guide to personal happiness and self-fulfillment.

Now you can unlock your full potential and free yourself from the shackles of past traumas and societal expectations to find true personal happiness. Based on the theories of renowned psychologist Alfred Adler, this book guides you through the principles of self-forgiveness, self-care, and mind decluttering in a straightforward, easy-to-digest style that’s accessible to all.

The Courage to Be Disliked unfolds as a dialogue between a philosopher and a young man, who, over the course of five enriching conversations, realizes that each of us is in control of our life’s direction, independent of past burdens and expectations of others.

Wise, empowering, and profoundly liberating, this book is a life-changing experience that shows you a path to lasting happiness and how to finally be the person you truly want to be. Millions are already benefiting from its teachings—and you can be next.

Contents

• Why People Can Change: 8
• People Fabricate Anger: 16
• Socrates and Adler: 23
• People Always Choose Not to Change: 31
• Why You Dislike Yourself: 45
• Feelings of Inferiority Are Subjective Assumptions: 55
• Braggarts Have Feelings of Inferiority: 65
• Life Is Not a Competition: 72
• From Power Struggle to Revenge: 82
• Overcoming the Tasks That Face You in Life: 90
• Dont Fall for the LifeLie: 100
• Do Not Live to Satisfy the Expectations of Others: 116
• How to Separate Tasks: 122
• How to Rid Yourself of Interpersonal Relationship Problems: 129
• Desire for Recognition Makes You Unfree: 138
• You Hold the Cards to Interpersonal Relationships: 147
• The Goal of Interpersonal Relationships: 161
• You Are Not the Center of the World: 168
• Do Not Rebuke or Praise: 178
• How to Feel You Have Value: 187
• People Cannot Make Proper Use of Self: 195
• Excessive SelfConsciousness Stifles the Self: 205
• The Difference Between Trust and Confidence: 212
• The Essence of Work Is a Contribution: 219
• Workaholism Is a LifeLie: 227
• Two Paths Traveled by Those Wanting: 238
• Life Is a Series of Moments: 245
• Shine a Light on the Here and Now: 252
• Give Meaning to Seemingly Meaningless Life: 258
• Afterword: 265

About the author

Ichiro Kishimi was born in Kyoto, where he currently resides. He writes and lectures on Adlerian psychology and provides counseling for youths in psychiatric clinics as a certified counselor and consultant for the Japanese Society of Adlerian Psychology. He is the translator, into Japanese, of selected writings by Alfred Adler—The Science of Living and Problems of Neurosis—and he is the author of Introduction to Adlerian Psychology, in addition to numerous other books.

Bibliographic information

• Title: The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness
• Authors: Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga
• Edition: reprint
• Publisher: Simon and Schuster, 2024
• ISBN: 1668065967, 9781668065969
• Length: 288 pages
• Subjects: Philosophy / Free Will & Determinism; Psychology / General; Religion / Inspirational; Self-Help / Mood Disorders / General; Self-Help / Motivational & Inspirational; Self-Help / Personal Growth / Happiness