When You Can You Will: Why You Can't Always Do what You Want to Do--and what to Do about itMost self-help books promise that you can change if only you will follow a prescribed program. Bernfield explains that sometimes not changing until you're ready is self-protection--not self-destruction. |
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You Cant Hurry Change | 1 |
Its All in the Family | 17 |
Cover Story | 45 |
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