Love and orgasm

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Macmillan, 1965 - Sex (Psychology) - 303 pages
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Here are some quotes from Lowen's book. Judge for yourself:
“Most men … feel that the need to bring a woman to climax through clitoral stimulation is a burden. If it is done before intercourse
but after the man is excited and ready to penetrate, it imposes a restraint upon his natural desire for closeness and intimacy. Not only does he lose some of his excitation through this delay, but the subsequent act of coitus is deprived of its mutual quality. Clitoral stimulation during the act of intercourse may help the woman to reach a climax, but it distracts the man from the perception of his genital sensations and greatly interferes with the pelvic movements upon which his own feeling of satisfaction depends. The need to bring the woman to climax after the act of intercourse has been completed and the man has reached his climax is burdensome, since it prevents him from enjoying the relaxation and peace that are the rewards of sexuality. Most men to whom I have spoken who engaged in this practice resented it” (Lowen, 1965, p. 229).
“I do not mean to condemn the practice of clitoral stimulation if a woman finds that this is the only way that she can obtain a sexual release. However, I advise my patients against it since it focuses feelings on the clitoris and prevents the vaginal response. It is not a fully satisfactory experience and cannot be considered the equivalent of a vaginal orgasm. On this point, however, I think that women should speak for themselves, since they alone know what it feels like” (Lowen, 1965, p. 229).
MY COMMENTS: A lot of subsequent research has found that most women do not orgasm reliably from intercourse without additional clitoral stimulation. The fact the Lowen recommended "vaginal orgasms" to his “patients” probably set them up for disappointment, self-blame, and frustration.
The best I can say for Lowen is that in 1965, not as much was known about orgasms as is known now. The best I can say about his book is that it is based on IGNORANCE.
[To read an interesting essay on the topic of "vaginal orgasms," see Koedt, Anne. (1970). The Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm. From the CWLU Herstory Website Archive,]


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