I'm OK--You're OKThe Classic Bestseller that has Changed the Lives of Millions "Extraordinary. Harris has helped millions find the freedom to change, liberate their adult effectiveness, and achieve joyful intimacy with others." —Los Angeles Times Transactional analysis delineates three ego-states (Parent, Adult and Child) as the basis for the content and quality of interpersonal communication. “Happy childhood” notwithstanding, says Harris, most of us are living out the not OK feelings of a defenseless child wholly dependent on others (parents) for stroking and caring. At some stage early in our lives we adopt a “position” about ourselves and others that determines how we feel about everything we do. And for a huge portion of the population, that position is "I’m Not OK-You’re OK." This negative "life position," shared by successful and unsuccessful people alike, contaminates our rational adult capabilities, leaving us vulnerable to inappropriate, emotional reactions of our child and uncritically learned behavior programmed into our parent. By exploring the structure of our personalities and understanding old decisions, Harris believes we can find the freedom to change our lives. |
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... youngsters break this old rule, there was an over-reaction that seemed inappropriate to the mere violation of the rules of simple neatness. Finally, after several decades of living with this unexam- ined law, mother asked grandmother ...
... youngster gets a double sanction—the set and the folks—and he as- sumes permission to be violent provided he collects the required amount of injustices. The little person collects his own reasons to shoot up the place, just as the ...
... youngster is five years old. This is consistent with most psychoanalytic the- ory, and, in my own observation, is true. If, then, we emerge from childhood with a set of experiences which are recorded in an inerasable Parent and Child ...
Contents
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The Four Life Positions | 39 |
We Can Change | 57 |
Analyzing the Transaction | 68 |
How We Differ | 102 |
How We Use Time | 115 |
PAC and Marriage | 128 |
PAC and Children | 146 |
PAC and Adolescents | 179 |
When Is Treatment Necessary? | 202 |
PAC and Moral Values | 220 |
Social Implications of PAC | 250 |
Index | 275 |
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I'm Ok, You're Ok: A practical guide to Transactional Analysis Thomas A. Harris No preview available - 2013 |