An Empty Cradle, a Full Heart: Reflections for Mothers and Fathers After Miscarriage, Stillbirth, Or Infant Death

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Loyola Press, 2010 - Religion - 272 pages
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"Bereavement after the loss of a baby is often quiet and lonely," writes Christine O'Keeffe Lafser, who has twice lost a child to death. "There is no wake or funeral, no grave site, no memorial to our baby's life or death. . . . Since there are no real memories of our little one's life, people have a hard time comprehending the depth of our love and grief." In these reflections, Lafser offers grieving parents the empathy and courage that can come only from one who has walked the same difficult path.
"Chris expressed so many of my thoughts and feelings and made me feel so normal. . . . The greatest gift is learning that God does not desert us in our time of need."
Linda Davis, Compassionate Friends, after miscarriage and stillbirth
"The juxtaposition of a Scripture text with each reflection is inspired. Some of the texts are breathtaking in their beauty and appropriateness. This book is a 'must' for anyone who is ever touched by the loss of an infant."
Joseph Awad, poet and grieving grandfather
"This book will be very helpful for parents who are mourning the loss of their child. It will also prove very beneficial to anyone who is ministering to a bereaved parent."
Robert N. Craig, O.F.M. Cap., hospital chaplain
"These reflections allowed me to 'be' how I was feeling--not feel like I should be going through the stages of grief that other books described. With this book I was no longer a square peg trying to fit into a round hole."
Jeanette Siebels, after infant death

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I totally disagree with the above review. I came across this book a few years back after I had experienced multiple miscarriages over a span of about three years which happened about twelve years ago now. I could relate to most all of the readings. She expressed exactly what I felt and went through. I am puzzled by the comment that you imagine that your experience was EXTREMELY different from someone who lost a child at birth? Does that make your, as you say "pregnancy" that you lost, any less a real baby? A loss of a child at any stage should be treated as an equal loss. When I had miscarriages between 8 to 10 weeks it was still my CHILD that died. I will always grieve their losses. It has been 11 years since my last one and a younger friend of mine was just told at her ultrasound that her baby had stopped growing and they didn't see a heart beat. It brought back all the emotions and pain of what I went through. I got out this book and read it again tonight and cried all over again. I looked on here to purchase it to give to my friend because it is so powerful. Her reflections covered a variety of emotions exactly how I experienced them and were followed by very appropriate scripture verses that helped to get the point of each reflection across even better. If you are not a Christian then I am sure it was hard for you to relate to this book. You didn't grasp the total essence of this book. I would highly recommend it to anyone who has experienced a loss of a baby at any stage.  

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