Better Single Than Sorry: A No-Regrets Guide to Loving Yourself and Never Settling

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Harper Collins, Oct 13, 2009 - Self-Help - 288 pages
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Let's be honest. No woman really wants to be alone for the rest of her life. But does being alone mean you're doomed to be miserable forever? Definitely not! And does being single have to equal lonely? No way! You can have the best time of your life when you're single, but you wouldn't know that from our relationship obsessed society, where celebrity magazines devote the majority of their content to who's dating whom and the wedding industry is a $100-billion business. Yet more than a third of marriages end in divorce, and countless other couples languish in unions that shouldn't have happened in the first place.

Don't become a statistic—love yourself and never settle!

Jen Schefft knows that better than almost anyone. In 2003, she got engaged in front of millions of people on television's The Bachelor, only to see it end nine months later when the relationship just wasn't right anymore. A year later, she turned down an engagement on The Bachelorette, and the backlash was relentless. She was labeled a "spinster" by a celebrity magazine, and a noted national talk-show host remarked that she would be "a bachelorette for the rest of her life."

This is a terrible message to send to the millions of sensational single women out there, and in Better Single Than Sorry Schefft makes it her mission to let women know that it's better to be single than to be in a relationship that doesn't make you happy. With testimonials from women of all ages—single, married, in committed relationships, with children (even single moms) and without—this book tells you how to let go of your fear of being alone and how to love yourself and never settle for a relationship that is anything less than you deserve.

Written in a conversational style, as if talking with your best friend, Schefft helps you navigate the pressures of a culture that places an unhealthy importance on being in a relationship and shows you how to find happiness in work, home, and the simple pleasures of everyday life. Above all, she shows you how it's far, far better to be single than sorry. Being single is a time to have fun, learn new things, grow, and blossom—not a time to feel desperate or depressed, so cherish it!


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Insight from several women about breakups and how to deal with other peoples expectations. I bought this book for my niece who is going through a divorce and dating losers but had to read it first. I think she & others in the same situation will benefit from these womens perspectives. Read full review

Better Single Than Sorry: A No-Regrets Guide to Loving Yourself and Never Settling

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Similar in theme to Erin Torneo and Valerie Cabrera Krause'sThe Bridal Wave (see p. 130), these two books affirm a reader's marriage-free status. Patrons may recognize Schefft as star of ABC'sThe ... Read full review


But All My Friends Are Married
Chapter Seven
You Know Whats Best for You
Basic Instinct
Your Time Is Precious Why Waste It?
Chapter Fifteen
Chapter Seventeen
Red Flags and Deal Breakers
Its Not You Its Us
Chapter Twenty

Chapter Nine
Dont Talk Yourself into Liking a Guy

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About the author (2009)

Jen Schefft won 2003's The Bachelor and starred in 2004's The Bachelorette. Walking away from both after turning down two proposals, she now works in public relations and lives in Chicago, Illinois.

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