Outdated: Why Dating Is Ruining Your Love Life

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Seal Press, 2011 - Family & Relationships - 241 pages
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Romance and love are in a state of crisis: Statistically speaking, young women today are living romantic lives of all kinds?but theyOCOre still feeling bogged down by social, cultural, economic, and familial pressures to love in a certain way. Young women in the modern world have greater flexibility than ever when it comes to who we choose to love and how we choose to love them; but while social circumstances may have changed since our parentsOCO generation, certain life expectations remain. In "Outdated, " Samhita Mukhopadhyay addresses the difficulty of negotiating loving relationships within the borderlands of race, culture, class, and sexuality?and of holding true to our convictions and maintaining our independence while we do it.
"Outdated" analyzes how different forms of media, cultural norms, family pressure, and even laws, are produced to scare women into believing that if they donOCOt devote themselves to finding a man, theyOCOll be doomed to a life of loneliness and shame. Using interviews with young women that are living around, between, within, and outside of the romantic industrial complex, Mukhopadhyay weaves a narrative of the alternative ways that women today have elected to live their lives, and in doing so offers a fresh, feminist look at an old topic: How do diverse, independent young women date happily and successfully?and outside of the box?


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Review: Outdated: Why Dating Is Ruining Your Love Life

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ambivalent on this one. i could see almost any 1--5 star rating. Feminist take on various aspects of dating, love, sexuality, relationships by single 33-year old Indian American woman. Somewhat ... Read full review

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This book has definitely changed how I view my past and current relationship in a very positive way :) It's made me feel better about some of the choices I have or haven't made. It's informal tone makes it a god read and worth it! Read full review


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Samhita Mukhopadhyay is a writer and activist, and is currently the Executive Editor of Feministing.com. She is also web manager at the Center for Media Justice, an Oakland-based organization that provides media strategy and action for justice-based grassroots organizing groups. She has a bachelor's degree in sociology and women's studies from SUNY Albany, and a master's degree in women's studies focused on blogging, gender, social networking technology and activism from San Francisco State.

Mukhopadhyay is on the advisory board at WireTap magazine, and she has written for New American Media, Wiretap, Colorlines, The Nation, and The American Prospect. She has been featured in India Currents magazine, Nirali Magazine, and Alternet, and in 2007 she was named a Champion of Sexual Literacy by the National Sexuality Resource Center.

Mukhopadhyay focuses most of her writing on popular culture, race, gender, the prison industrial complex, and the romantic industrial complex. She lives in Brooklyn, NY.