Conscious Dating: Finding the Love of Your Life in Today's World

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Relationship Coaching Institute, 2006 - Family & Relationships - 342 pages
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Conscious Dating is destined to change the way single men and women view dating, relationships, and, most importantly, themselves. It・s about making informed choices, about saying no to what you don・t want so you can say yes to what you do want. It・s about taking personal responsibility as the architect of your own future and happiness. And, it・s about knowing that you really can find the love of your life and enjoy a happy, fulfilled, and productive relationship.Conscious Dating teaches you how to make more enlightened relationship choices so you can enjoy the happiness you deserve. As singles, we don・t serve ourselves well by settling for relationships that are less than what we really want. We must keep the vision we have for our life as the guiding star toward which we walk our life・s journey. This isn・t just another dating book filled with tired ideas about how to :get; a man or woman. Nor does it offer manipulative or deceptive practices that compromise who you are. In sharp contrast, Conscious Dating: Finding the Love of Your Life in Today・s World offers sound guidance based upon higher principles of personal truth, integrity, and genuine respect and love for self and others. It offers solid information and strategies that address the complexities of today・s modern relationships.This comprehensive guide won・t ask you to do things that aren・t in alignment with your values. Instead, you・ll learn how your values can become the foundation upon which you design a relationship plan that meets your express requirements, needs, and wants. Conscious Dating helps you dispel much of the confusion and frustration around dating by offering you a new approach to relationships.David Steele guides you through three major areas that comprise the foundation of conscious dating: who we are, what we want, and how to get what we want. In exploring these areas through assessments, exercises, and questions, you can learn how to take a proactive role, perhaps for the first time, in making better relationship choices. You・ll be equipped with new tools, ideas, and concepts necessary to achieve success in dating. By learning and implementing these new strategies, you can create new and different outcomes for yourself.
 

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Contents

Gain Relationship KnowledgeSkills
SECRETS OF HAPPINESS
THE 10 DIRTY SECRETS OF HAPPINESS
YOU DONT KNOW WHAT YOU DONT KNOW
LEARN THESE TOP 10 RELATIONSHIP ATTITUDES
LEARN THESE TOP 10 RELATIONSHIP ATTITUDES
FACTS JUDGMENTS AND FEELINGS
Create a Support Community

FUTURIST VISION OF MARRIAGE
Please refer to Chapter 15 to write your answers
2 What Do We Really Want?
WANTING A SOUL MATE
THE MIRACLE OF CONNECTION
LOVE AND SURVIVAL
SEVEN BENEFITS OF A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP
SEVEN BENEFITS OF A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP
Please refer to Chapter 15 to write your answers
The 14 Dating Traps
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4 Being Single Is an Opportunity
THE SINGLES BLUES
LEARNING BY FALLING DOWN
YOURE SINGLE FOR A REASON
YOUR MOST IMPORTANT QUESTION
THE NEW SINGLE VERSUS THE OLD SINGLE
MAKING THE MOST OF BEING SINGLE
USING OUR RELATIONSHIPS AS MIRRORS
CREATING A SUPPORT COMMUNITY
Please refer to Chapter 15 to write your answers
Know Who You AreWhat You Want
WHAT IS YOUR VISION?
WHAT ARE YOUR REQUIREMENTS?
WHAT ABOUT LOVE?
CREATING A CRYSTAL CLEAR VISION
WHAT ARE YOUR NEEDS?
EMOTIONAL NEEDS
NEEDS
NEEDINESS
Learn How to Get What You Want
WHAT YOU BELIEVE YOU CAN ACHIEVE
WHAT ARE YOUR RELATIONSHIP BELIEFS?
CHOOSING EFFECTIVE BELIEFS AND ATTITUDES
YOUR CONSCIOUS DATING STRATEGY
PUTTING YOUR TOOLS TO USE
Be The Chooser
ARE YOU A CHOOSER OR A VICTIM?
AIM TO BE THE CHOOSER
I WANT TO BE THE CHOOSER BUT
ARE YOU THE PURSUER OR THE PURSUED?
HOW CAN YOU BECOME THE CHOOSER?
Balance Your Heart with Your Head
ITS HOT AROUND HERE
EMOTIONAL CHEMISTRY
USING YOUR HEAD OR LOSING YOUR HEART?
LOVE VERSUS ATTACHMENT
WHAT ABOUT CHEMISTRY?
YOUR HEAD CAN HELP YOUR HEART
Results
Please refer to Chapter 15 to write your answers
Be ReadyAvailable for Commitment
ARE YOU READY?
MEETING THE GROPER
RECREATIONAL DATING
COMMITTED DATING
MINIMARRIAGE
GETTING READY FOR WHAT YOU WANT
Use the Law of Attraction
ITS NEVER TOO LATE TO DATE
LIKE ATTRACTS LIKE
LOOKING FOR THE PERFECT PACKAGE
BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR
GETTING WHAT YOU DESERVE
WHERE IS YOUR COMMUNITY?
BREAKING OUT OF ISOLATION
WHO WILL YOU PROMOTE? WHO WILL YOU DEMOTE?
CREATE YOUR SUPPORT COMMUNITY
ITS TIME TO ENLIST HELP
Practice Assertiveness
PRACTICE PRACTICE
WHAT ARE YOUR BOUNDARIES?
WHAT ARE YOUR EXPECTATIONS WHEN YOURE DATING?
PROACTIVE ASSERTIVENESS
ISSUES ARE UNMET NEEDS
STUCK IN THE PAST
NOT READY FOR THAT FIRST KISS
Be a Successful Single
SEEKING FROM WANT VERSUS NEED
INVESTING IN YOURSELF
HOWS YOUR SOCIAL LIFE?
THE JOURNEY VERSUS THE DESTINATION
ARE YOU A SUCCESSFUL SINGLE?
BECOMING A SUCCESSFUL SINGLE
15 Your Conscious Dating Plan You are now familiar with the principles and strategies of
WHAT IS YOUR READINESS STATUS?
Exercise No 5 Chapter 5 Page 109
Exercise No 6 Chapter 10 Page 203
WHAT ARE YOUR STRATEGIES FOR SCOUTING SORTING SCREENINGTESTING?
Exercise No 9 Chapter 10 Page 203
WHAT ARE YOUR BOUNDARIES?
Exercise No 11 Chapter 8 Page 169
Exercise No 12 Chapter 9 189
Exercise No 14 Chapter 12 Page 240
HOW WILL YOU STAY ON TRACK?
WHAT IS YOUR EXIT STRATEGY?
HOW WILL YOU TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF?
PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER
Exercise No 19
Is This The One?
AM I STILL IN THE TESTING STAGE?
TRYING TO MAKE THE RELATIONSHIP WORK
ATTACHMENT VERSUS LOVE
IS THIS THE RIGHT RELATIONSHIP FOR ME?
EVOLVE VS PUSH VS TWIST
PRECOMMITMENT AND COHABITATION
FACT VERSUS ATTITUDE
CONSCIOUS MATING
CONSCIOUS VERSUS UNCONSCIOUS PRECOMMITMENT
CONCLUSION
EPILOGUE
WHERE ARE THEY NOW?
Mark
Cathy
Seth
Dorothy
DONT WASTE A MOMENT MORE
Appendixes
B CONSCIOUS DATING GLOSSARY
C FREE CONSCIOUS DATING AUDIO PROGRAM
E ADVANCED CONSCIOUS DATING INFORMATIONSTRATEGIES
REFERENCES
CHAPTER 3
CHAPTER 4
CHAPTER 8
BIBLIOGRAPHY
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David Steele, MA, is the founder of the Relationship Coaching Institute and a pioneer in working with singles. He has trained hundreds of coaches and therapists and helped thousands of singles and couples get what they want in relationships. His book, Conscious Dating, will show you precisely how to get what you want in your own life. Steele, a family therapist, spent over twenty-five years trying to mend marriages while trying to make his own relationships work. Married and divorced twice X and the father of twin boys and a daughter X he has learned from his own personal as well as professional experiences.As Steele founded the Relationship Coaching Institute, he met the love of his life.In one of the most useful dating books you will ever read, Steele brings insight, compassion, and most importantly, a wealth of knowledge gathered working with clients on their relationships. He gives you step-by-step practical advice, and uses his own stories of trial and errorXas well as the singles he has coachedXto show you how to find the love of your life and the life that you love.Are you still dreaming about finding the love of your life? If so, start reading Conscious Dating today. Easy to read, Steele's great exercises will leave you wondering why no one has ever written about this before. This book provides you with sound guidance for making your own customized relationship plan. With over two decades of working with men and women on relationship issues, no one is more qualified to address the pitfalls and opportunities of dating than David Steele.

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