The Single Girl's Guide to Marrying a Man, His Kids, and His Ex-Wife: Becoming A Stepmother With Humor And Grace

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Penguin, Apr 5, 2005 - Family & Relationships - 256 pages
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A funny, honest, and empathetic resource for the novice stepmother, which includes advice on The kids: Adjusting to suspicion, resentment, and biological-parent loyalties; The ex-wife: Living calmly alongside her, whether she's a psycho or the perfect mother; The holidays: Accommodating old family traditions and developing new ones; The sex: Keeping love alive through the kids' bed-wetting and nightmares. Plus an invaluable list of resources, websites, publications, and organizations specifically for the new stepmother.

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I'm not especially thrilled with this book. I've read a bunch of books about becoming a step-mother and what it means. I was fine with this one, until the chapter discussing whether or not a step ... Read full review

The single girl's guide to marrying a man, his kids, and his ex-wife: becoming a stepmother with humor and grace

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Finding a shortage of support books for single women who enter into marriage with a divorced man (and everyone else who comes along), Bjornsen wrote this guide to help new wives/stepmothers anticipate ... Read full review


A Sense of Humor Is a Stepmothers Best Friend
His Kids Come FirstLearning to Love Second Place
Expect to Get Mad
Expect to Be Evil Now and Then
Whose Honeymoon Is This Anyway?
Manage Your Expectations with Your Man
It Gets Better with Time
This Is Not My Beautiful Life
Your Day? Your Day
What About the Real Mother on Mothers Day?
Fathers Day and His Birthday
Your Stepchildrens Birthdays
Your Birthday
The ExWife and the HolidaysGift? No Gift?
Etiquette for Parents and Inlaws on the Holidays
Nothing Vacationlike in a Family Vacation

Transitioning Out of Your Single Life
Identity TheftMaking Friends with Your Evil Twin
The Mommy ClubNo Stepmothers Allowed
If Im Not Their Mother Then Who Am I?
Hey Wait a SecondIs That the ExWife in the Refrigerator?
Role Models Wanted
A Woman Without a Country
The Crazy Things Kids Say
Youre Not My MotherI Love You Not
My Mom Doesnt Do It That Way
Youre Nobodys FavoriteCome Here Come Here Get Away Get Away
The Unrequited Wave
Who Invited Her?
Dont Believe Everything You Hear
The BioMoms Mothering Style Has Nothing to Do with You
Set Limits and Boundaries with Your Husbands ExWife
What Kind of Ex Would You Be?
Never Say Never
Happy Wife Happy ExWife Happy Life
Happy and Hitched
The ExWife Type
Establishing Your Style
The United Front
The InnkeeperDivvying Up Household Chores
Exerting Your Influence
Conflicting Core Values
Whose Christmas Is It This Year?
Yours Mine and OursLearning to Share
Learning to Talk About the M Word
Men and Money
His Hers and OursThreeAccount System
Money and the ExWife
You Said What?
Youre Driving What? When Financial Attitudes and Values Collide
Its Only Money
Romance in the Real World
Stepmother Sex
Tips for Keeping It Hot with Your Hubby
Schizophrenic Love Syndrome
Night Crawlers and Things That Go Bump in the Night
Date Nights
Romance with an ExWife Nearby
Deciding to Go Biological
A Few Good Reasons to Have Your Own Baby
The Practicalities of Going Bio
Breaking the News to the Kids
Timing Is Everything
A Family Affair
Who Comes to the Hospital?
Can Baby Come Stay at My Moms House?
Associations and Their Web Sites
Good General Books on Stepparenting and Remarriage

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About the author (2005)

Sally Bjornsen is a commercial artist representative and author. Bjornsen has published one nonfiction book and various essays in anthologies. When Bjornsen is not writing or working, she is blogging and has her own internationally popular blog, Bjornsen has been a stepmother guest expert on the ABC Radio Network's nationally broadcast Satellite Sisters. She lives in Seattle with her husband Mark, their son, and her two stepsons.

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