It Takes a Parent: How the Culture of Pushover Parenting Is Hurting Our Children-and What to Do About it

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Penguin, Aug 1, 2006 - Family & Relationships - 256 pages
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Syndicated columnist and mother of four Betsy Hart presents a passionate, provocative argument against today's "parenting culture"-parents who put their kids on a pedestal, shy away from discipline, and cede the power to take decisions, large and small, to their children. Covering hot topics, from spanking and discipline to giving kids way too many choices, this commonsense book shifts the focus back to the role and responsibilities of parents for guiding the character and hearts of their children, so they'll grow up to be responsible adults themselves.

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The Far Side of the Spectrum?
The New Normal
What About the Heart?
More PaidOff KidsMore Depression?
A Rescue Mission
So Whats Going On?
It Takes a Parentand a Villageto Raise a Child
Parenting Check
The Proof Is in the Pudding?
Parenting Check
Decisions Decisions
The Consequences of Using Consequences to Teach About Choices
The Moral and the Practical and Why the Difference Matters
Children Learn to Make Wise Choices by Having Wise Choices Made for Them
Explaining vs Justifying
Because Im the Mom

Personality Does Not Character Make
Parents Matter
Nature VS Nurture?Not the Right Question
Training Day
Does Perseverance Matter?
Parenting Check
Im a Work in Progress Too
Whose Side Are We On?
The Infallible Parent? No Way
The Cost of Being on Our Childrens Side
One for All
How High Should I Jump?
Lets Hear It for the Home Team
The BestLaid Plans
The World Doesnt Revolve Around You
Parenting Check
If You Want Sympathy Look It Up in the Dictionary
The Blessing of a Skinned Knee
Its Possible to Give Too Much Attention to Your Kids
All the More Need for Rational Parents
Parenting Check
Im Gonna Like Me
We Love to Love Ourselves
Esteeming for the Right Reasons
Esteeming and Esteeming Excellence in Others
Parenting Check
Civilizing Children
Criticize the Behavior Not the Child
Interpreting Matters of the Heart
A Disorder to Explain the Disorder of the Heart
The Confidence to Pursue Our Childrens Hearts
Parenting Check
For the Joy of the Experience?
Positive Parenting?
Adversity Is a NoNo Too
Stubborn Irritable Argumentative
Parenting Check
Feelings and the Heart
Sometimes Anger Is Not Okay
The Orientation of the Heart
I Dont Care If You Dont Feel Like Eating Fish
The Heart and the Brain
What Do I Know to Be True?
Whats Love Got to Do with It?
The Art of the Soul
Parenting Check
The Whore Wars
Dare Not to Date?
Do Kids Really Have a Right to Privacy?
Schools and the Culture Wars
The New Family
Hate the Sin but
The Culture and the Heart
Parenting Check
Why the Beef?
Wheres the Beef?
The Power of Touch
How Do the Alternatives Stack Up?
Ideas from Left Field
Come Let Us Reason Together
Case Open on Spanking
Whats the Question Again?
Parenting Check
Chapter 1 Kids Gone Wild
Chapter 3 Im on Your Side Whats a Parent for Anyway?
Chapter 7 Misbehavior and Other Matters of the Heart
Chapter 9 Who Chose to Give Kids So Many Choices?
The Culture Can Be Cool
Chapter 13 Challenge the Experts for the Sake of Your Child

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Betsy Hart is a nationally syndicated newspaper columnist for the Scripps Howard News Service. Her weekly column on cultural, family, and political issues, "From the Hart," is distributed to 350 newspapers across the country. A frequent television news commentator, she lives in the Chicago area with her four young children.

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