Talking to Depression: Simple Ways To Connect When Someone In Your Life Is Depressed
When a friend or family member suffers from depression, we naturally want to help—but too often our good intentions seem to come out wrong. We can feel guilty, or even angry, about the sheer difficulty in communicating with someone we love so much. This practical, compassionate guide can help you understand exactly what your loved one is going through, and why certain approaches help and others have the potential to do damage.
Whether your loved one is receiving professional treatment or not, this guide addresses the vital role you can play in managing the day-to-day ups and downs, and speeding up recovery. By discussing common behaviors and situations, Talking to Depression offers specific advice on what to do and what not to do—what to say and what not to say—to avoid frustration and give the kind of caring, effective support that really makes a difference.
“A prescriptive guide for genuine relating with loved ones experiencing depression. It touches the heart of one’s inner experience.”—Jo Cohen Hamilton, Ph.D.
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HOW BAD IS IT?
THE GOOD NEWS
WHAT IS DEPRESSION?
WHATS GOOD ABOUT CALLING IT A DISEASE OR DISORDER?
DO PEOPLE KNOW THEY ARE SUFFERING FROM DEPRESSION?
HOW DO I TELL THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN GRIEF AND DEPRESSION?
WHAT IF ALL THESE ARE ELIMINATED AND THE DOCTOR THINKS ITS DEPRESSION? WHAT THEN?
ARE TREATMENTS SUCCESSFUL?
THE GIFT THEY CAN HOLD
THE GIFT OF SPONTANEITY
THE GIFT OF WORDS
THE GIFT OF ACTIVITY
WHEN THE ANSWER IS YES
WHY NOT JUST CALL 911 RIGHT AWAY?
WHAT KIND OF RESISTANCE SHOULD I EXPECT?
HE SEEMS DOWN HOW DO I BROACH THE SUBJECT?
WHAT KIND OF MEDICATION IS AVAILABLE FOR DEPRESSION?
ARE THERE OTHER APPROACHES TO TREATMENT?
ARE THERE DIFFERENT KINDS OF DEPRESSION?
ARE THERE OTHER SITUATIONS IN WHICH DEPRESSION EXISTS?
WHEN DOESNT TREATMENT WORK?
CAN I GET INVOLVED IN TREATMENT?
DETERMINING YOUR ROLE
WHAT DOES DEPRESSION FEEL LIKE?
WHERE DOES IT SEEM TO COME FROM?
WHAT KIND OF SUPPORT HELPS THE MOST?
WHAT HURTS? GETS IN THE WAY? SETS ME BACK?
START WITH A QUESTION
LET THEM TAKE THE LEAD
ITS NOT THAT BAD
THINGS COULD BE WORSE
THINGS WILL GET BETTER
JUST ACCEPT THINGS THE WAY THEY ARE
THERES ALWAYS A SILVER LINING
THAT SOUNDS REALLY BAD IM SORRY
I KNOW THIS IS GOING TO BE TERRIBLY HARD BUT WELL GET THROUGH THIS NO MATTER HOW LONG IT TAKES
I NEED YOUR HELP
IVE BEEN SO CONCER NED ABOUT YOU A LOT OF THINGS ARE NOT MY BUSINESS BUT I FEEL I WOULD BE FAILING YOU IF I DIDN...
WHAT ARE SOME OTHER THINGS I CAN SAY THAT SHOW EMPATHY?
WHAT WILL HE SAY?
WHAT PROMISES SHOULD YOU AVOID?
WHAT ACTIONS CAN YOU TAKE TO SHOW YOUR SUPPORT?
WHAT IF SHE IS RELUCTANT TO ACCEPT HELP?
WHAT IF HE KEEPS PUTTING ME OFF?
WHAT IF SHES SUFFERED FROM DEPRESSION IN THE PAST AND IT LOOKS LIKE ITS STARTING TO HAPPEN AGAIN?
WHAT IF I THINK HIS GRIEF HAS TURNED INTO DEPRESSION?
SHES ALWAYS BEEN HEALTHY BUT SHE SEEMS TO BE BECOMING A HYPOCHONDRIAC SHOULD I WORRY?
HE CANT GET HIMSELF OUT OF BED IN THE MORNING HOW SHOULD I RESPOND?
SHE CANT FOCUS ON SCHOOLWORK HOW CAN I HELP?
HE WONT TALK TO ME HOW CAN I HELP HIM IF HE JUST GRUNTS AND GETS ANGRY IF I PRESS FOR MORE?
WHAT IF SHE WONT EAT?
WHAT SHOULD I DO IF HE IS ANGRY ALL THE TIME?
HOW DO I ACT AROUND A DEPRESSED PERSON?
WHAT ABOUT ME?
WHOSE FAULT IS IT?
WHAT DOES IT LOOK LIKE?
HOW CAN ADULTS HELP?
PAYING ATTENTION TO YOUR HEALTH
WHAT TO DO IF YOU START TO SHOW SIGNS OF DEPRESSION
CHANGE YOUR ROUTINE
VOICES OF THOSE WHO HAVE SUFFERED FROM DEPRESSION
HELPFUL BOOKS ON CHILDHOOD DEPRESSION
FOCUS ON SYMPTOMS
ESPECIALLY FOR KIDS
IF YOU HAVE LOST SOMEONE TO SUICIDE OR FEAR YOU WILL