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The book can be considered propaganda at best.
1. There is absolutly no mention of his education in this book, other than he has experience. I'm a vet tech, I work with animals everyday. The thought
of me writing a book about animals and claiming I'm an "expert" is ludicrous. Same thing applies here.
2. There is not one mention of solid research in this entire book. He does not cite anything besides his "experience"
3. He admits his program does not have a high success rate, instead of exploring other options he blames it on his clients.
4. He focuses much of the book on identifying potentially abusive behavior but provides very little information on how to overcome the behavior, except to leave which is mentioned several times over the book.
 

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There are painful ways of getting drawn in time and time again by a polished manipulator.
For example, if you lose your temper, rage, accuse and get involved in a drama scene, then it's only a
matter of time before you will feel guilty and ashamed of YOUR behavior and then off YOU go to apologize. Soon, you're building up for your next rage attack...and on and on it goes.
This books provides techniques to deal with the abusive personality in such a way that, guilt-free and proud of your own conduct, you can taking strong steps toward Freedom Street.
Eleanor Cowan, author of : A History of a Pedophile's Wife
 

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Everyone in the world should read this book. If you are searching for the "why?" this book provides it. This book gives you the knowledge to heal. Healing feels amazing.

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I purchased this book for my (at the time) future girlfriend coming out of a string of abusive relationships, the last of which I was lucky enough to have intervened. Along with "It's My Life Now: Starting Over After Abusive Relationship or Domestic Violence" the future object of my affections was able to learn a great deal about what truly happened and how to move forward in life. I recommend both titles as they ultimately helped her healing and allowed us to pursue a functioning and healthy relationship with one another. 

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I sent a copy of the chapter on types of abusers to a neighbor who had just separated from her husband. It looked to me as if both wife abuse and child abuse were likely. One of the types absolutely nailed her husband and when she told me, it was clear that she knew exactly how to handle him. This book puts power into the hands of the most powerless women. It should be owned by every married woman, just in case. 

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This book truly helped me get through one of the toughest times of my life, and as i still struggle with the after affects with having children I have to go get the other books. This book helped me understand so much and helped me become a stronger woman.

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I was drawn, as most women probably are, to the descriptions of the different types of abusers. My spouse was described in eye-opening detail, right down to quotations of the things he commonly said to me. The author provided great insight into the root of abusive behavior, how abusive men really view their partners. As an abused partner, this book gave me such clarity, and equipped me with the information I needed to make a truly informed decision about whether or not to stay with my abuser.  

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Angelique Kindel (Picillo, Baker) “I wanted him to hit rock bottom so bad that when someone would make a joke like ‘hey I got a friend who would hurt him’ I was taking him seriously.I wanted his car destroyed..I wanted him hurt so that he could be in the hospital…” ..” 4/15/06 #8420, Naranon Support at Yahoo Groups.
"...I put my son in harms way so many times by my driving or my yelling at him to get in the car faster so I could chase after Jason..I knew what I was doing was wrong and crazy…...I used to get so upset that I would yell at my son and I would drive erratically or couldnt' function or thought of all sorts of things to get back at him..” 4/15/06 #8420.
“…making me do crazy things or feel like doin crazy things…my crazy things usually involve driving two hours to RI…” 3/31/06 4:06 am.
”..I feel lke I might need to find an anger management program because whenI get hurt my anger tends to turn towards trying to kill the person…” 5/12/06 #8835.
Domestic Disturbance- Feb 15, 2012 Arrest: 12-2214-AR: PICILLO, ANGELIQUE C... Charges: A&B (Assault and Battery), DOB: 11/11/1979, 48 Janet St West Springfield, MA.
“…if J hadn’t called the cops on me and made upa story last year then I would have kept on callinghim and what not…even after that I still checked for himo n the internet anddroveto seehim at drag racing…basically there was no way to find out about him…I had checked on him so many times it’s like it called to me…” 7/5/06 #9833, Naranon Support at Yahoo.
Angelique Kindel (Picillo, Baker) “…forgetting what normal boundaries are…still to this day I forget…what’s normal…I am ALLOWED to want to talk to him…jesus crud…” 4/19/06 #8515.
Nov 7, 2012 – Angelique Picillo, 32, of 51 Ridgewood Terrace, was ARRESTED at home Monday at 6:30 a.m. on a warrant... Gazette Net, Easthampton MA.
“excuse me for saying so but I do have a degree in domestic violence and addiction... I could never write a book on being an abuser or wht they are thinkin i really don't get it... I have been through dv over and over so I can say I understand it and write a book on that…” Lundy Bancroft • April 7, 2012 at 10:19pm • WHEN HIS PUT-DOWNS SOUND TRUE…facebook.
”..im suprised at myself that when I was mad at him i just said I was mad and didnt' try to attack and kill him....so I've made progress..” 5/16/06 #8933, Naranon Support at Yahoo Groups.
Angelique Picillo (Baker, Kindel) “..I appreciate your candidness about wanting to punch him, in my case I have..and it got me no where..” 5/1/06 #8706.
“…I am VERY confrontational when I think the wool is being pulled over my eyes…he had run away the week before…I basically forced him into buying me something cause to me it mean that her would be around…” 3/26/06 #7970.
“…I personally had a bad car accident andeveryweek fora monthhad amniocentisis to see if the lungs were ready so he could come out…”.
“…when I had my c-section, they wouldn’t give me anything. I had to fight and fight and they finally gave me morphine pills which did nothing…the only thing that would work was morphine IV…I have morphine in my cabinet right now…” 3/29/06 2:30 am #8075.
“…I’ve been scared of him…not physically but…I don’t wnat to live in fear if my partner will be there for me I want a lot of things in life andI don’t want ot wonder if I’ll be able to get them…” 6/15/06 #9524.
“…myhusband,jeremiah, things got bad between us, and I kepttellinghim and he was cold and callous I said one day, that I felt like I would cheat on him…in telling Jason this story he said if I ever said that to him he would die and wouldn’t let me go…well I’ve said it several times to him and he hears nothing…” 6/4/06 #9266.
“…at one point I went into his back accoutn and transfer some moeny out…well he put a stop payment on it and now he’s mad at me I went into his bank account, kept pointing out how illegal it was…” 4/13/07 #13666
 

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Picking this up tomorrow....should be helpful considering what I'm going through right now. Thought that my husband had a mental illness and was seeking help for him and us. My kids and I got out and now we are in the courts dealing with it. One of the threats was "that wont hold up well in court" so I began to journal. So glad that I did.
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For a professional field that values degrees and certifications. Lundy Bancroft has No degree, no certifications, no license, and no research cited in most of his books. Just saying!  His writings are trash and do harm to many innocent men. He is a fraud! You do the reaerch and you will figure out the truth 

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