Promises I Can Keep: Why Poor Women Put Motherhood Before Marriage

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University of California Press, 2005 - Family & Relationships - 293 pages
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Millie Acevedo bore her first child before the age of 16 and dropped out of high school to care for her newborn. Now 27, she is the unmarried mother of three and is raising her kids in one of Philadelphia's poorest neighborhoods. Would she and her children be better off if she had waited to have them and had married their father first? Why do so many poor American youth like Millie continue to have children before they can afford to take care of them? Over a span of five years, sociologists Kathryn Edin and Maria Kefalas talked in-depth with 162 low-income single moms like Millie to learn how they think about marriage and family. "Promises I Can Keep "offers an intimate look at what marriage and motherhood mean to these women and provides the most extensive on-the-ground study to date of why they put children before marriage despite the daunting challenges they know lie ahead.

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Review: Promises I Can Keep: Why Poor Women Put Motherhood Before Marriage

User Review  - Shannon Baker - Goodreads

Why do some poor, single women become mothers? This is a well-researched and thoughtful book that had surprising (for me!) and revealing insights into this question I certainly had not thought about ... Read full review

Review: Promises I Can Keep: Why Poor Women Put Motherhood Before Marriage

User Review  - Rachel - Goodreads

Edin gives insight into the rationales and motivations of poor women to become pregnant and keep their children. As one who interacts frequently with these mothers and their children, I found this ... Read full review


Before We Had a Baby
When I Got Pregnant
How Does the Dream Die?
What Marriage Means
Labor of Love
How Motherhood Changed My Life
Making Sense of Single Motherhood
City Neighborhood And Family Characteristics and Research Methods
Interview Guide

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Kathryn Edin is Distinguished Bloomberg Professor in the Department of Sociology and also teaches in the Krieger School of Arts and Sciences and Bloomberg School of Public Health at Johns Hopkins University. She is the coauthor of "Doing the Best I Can: Fatherhood in the Inner City", "Promises I Can Keep: Why Poor Women Put Motherhood before Marriage", and "Making Ends Meet: How Single Mothers Survive Welfare and Low-Wage Work".Timothy Nelson is Senior Lecturer in Sociology at Johns Hopkins University. He is the author of "Every Time I Feel the Spirit: Religious Experience and Ritual in an African American Church.

Maria Kefalas is Assistant Professor of Sociology at Saint Joseph's University.

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